A Solo Christmas
Christmas is much more than shopping, baking and wrapping gifts. It’s more than just opening gifts, eating and drowning your sorrows in another glass of egg nog. It’s a time to come together with family, some of whom you haven’t seen in months (or years) and celebrate another year full of blessings. It’s a time of year that you can look back on fond memories of Christmas mornings clad in pajamas, waking in the early morn and racing to see what Santa had left under the tree. It’s a time of year that you can take a moment and breath in the beauty of the decorations, the smiles and the laughter.It’s also a time of year to reflect upon the greatest gift of all, the birth of a Savior, who came to this world in the humblest of ways; that he might dwell among us and understand the trials that human life holds, and ultimately die in the most barbaric of ways to cleanse us of a sin that only He could wash away.
It’s a time to focus on what Christmas really means, not as an “unattached” individual, but as a Child of God, a member of your family and as a friend. So this Christmas instead of wallowing in self despair…
- Take pictures: capture precious moments of family and friends as you celebrate, to hold on to those memories for years to come.
- Play with the kids: their parents will thank you and you’ll find yourself smiling before you know it.
- Help out in the kitchen: even if it is just serving drinks, it will provide a sense of accomplishment.
- Give thoughtful gifts: it will show that you took the time to consider each recipient and their wants/needs.
- Create a Solo Christmas tradition: treat yourself by buying yourself a gift, or treat yourself to a nice dinner out with friends. Maybe just spend a night beneath the glow of the Christmas lights as you write out all of the things you are thankful for this year. Or watch a favorite Christmas movie with a bowl full of goodies that have the right to hog all to yourself and not share. Whatever it is, do it for yourself!
A Solo New Years
This holiday often gets more people down in the dumps than Christmas because of that fateful kiss at midnight, but it doesn’t have to be another day to feel sorry for yourself. If you receive an invitation to a party – GO! Even if it’s a party full of couples, it’s better than sitting at home ringing in the new year by yourself. You never know who else they invited, that might be single, and that you could potentially hit it off with.This is also a night that ushers out the current year and welcomes in the new year with open arms, so don’t allow yourself to end (and begin) a year in a state of hopelessness. Utilize this time to reflect on all of the things you accomplished in the current year and to plan out how you will live your life in the coming 365 days.So this New Years instead of hiding out at midnight…
- Invite others to join you in a group hug and sing Auld Lang Syne.
- Take pictures of couples enjoying their New Years snog, to share with them later.
- Allow yourself to be a bit obnoxious by banging pots and pans to welcome in the new year.
- Bring along a teddy bear to give a hug to at the stroke of midnight – others may want a squeeze too.
- Create a vision board and draw up a plan of attack on how you will achieve these goals and share it with others to inspire them and also to provide you a sense of accountability.
So see, it’s possible to survive this time of year. As long as you don’t bury yourself in a plate of cookies and a copious amounts of egg nog, you’ll be just fine! And you never know what Santa might leave under the mistletoe for you!
Merry Christmas, you fabulously free-to-do-as-you-wish individual! I hope it’s one to remember!